Control, or lack there of!

Welcome Red Phoenix Nation!!!

From time to time I leave the credit stuff alone and like to chat about things we go through. I've been listening to many people and there stories of disaster, lack of control and our friend fear. Friends, right off the get go I need to remind you of one important and often overlooked thing. Although your situation is unique to you, you are not alone. I have helped and chatted with 1,000's of people. I'm telling you! REALLY, you are NOT ALONE!! I'm not going to play counselor, but I will tell you with absolute NO FEAR. I myself have filed bankruptcy, lost a few business's because of one thing or another, divorced with kids, lost a house to foreclosure and had a car or two or three repossessed on me. I might be missing a thing or two but I think you're getting it.

The feeling of being more lost than you ever have been sets in. You are overwhelmed with emotion, confusion and an absolute depression with a blend of pure anxiety sets in. You have lost what most of us don't ever think about: CONTROL!!! You can't even begin to figure out how to get it back, you have advice pouring in from everyone. Now your head is filled with your problems, people telling you what to do, bill collectors call, your boss hates you right now because you can't focus and all you want to do is SCREAM!!! OMG right!?!?! IT CAN'T GET ANY WORSE, BUT YET IT KEEPS GETTING WORSE!!! ARRRRRRRRRR!!!!

Might sound a little familiar in a scary kind of way, that's because I'm chatting about me, you and many others like us. I'm the Phoenix, an indestructible spirit! I take pride in that, a lot of pride. I focused on the positive in my life, anything that was positive. Talking about simply having a leaky air mattress in a windowless room in me gramps basement. I was very grateful for having it. I took control back, taking on one thing at a time and starting to work on anything I could. Improving my spirit, mind and body and did it little by little. Those little things will make the biggest difference. What happened next is I decided to have self belief again. I honestly started to believe and still do that I can do anything. I feel it and believe it, I never waiver. I have many gifts in my life, you my friends are one of those great gifts. All the negative things I have been through and had happen to me; gifts. I didn't almost die physically but mentally I was on life support. I sit here typing away almost four years later running a business again, driving a nice car, living where I want to and spending time with family and friends. Some of you are stronger than I was, and that is AWESOME!

Lastly my friends, smile. Smile and grin, life has hurdles and if we can put a smile on our face while we overcome adversity, then we are truly significant! Be great friends! If you need me, I'm always around...

john@redphoenixco.com

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